If you could change anything about your personality, what would it be?

[Mashy]

And why don't you?

[Julius_Van_Der_Beak]

I wouldn't change anything.

[Utisz]

If you could change anything about your personality, what would it be?

More confidence.

And why don't you?

Now where's the fun in that.

[Senseye]

Hmm, maybe more extroverted? Or at least maybe more socially engaged.

As to why not - that is easier said than done. It's hard to change one's nature IMO.

So in my example above, if I really enjoyed being extroverted I suppose I would be, but I don't really enjoy that mode of behavior. I would just like some of the perks that come from it - more friends, more social activity of the type I would enjoy.

And it's not like a task that one just needs to complete to get the benefit. A true personality change would have to be ongoing, and that means a constant struggle against your nature. Unless you can really change your nature. I've not experienced that personally, nor have I witnessed it first hand. Most of the people I have known who really could use some self improvement, tend to relapse into their old bad habits if they can even manage to rise above them in the first place.

[Madrigal]

To be more consistent.

Oh I have tried.

[djm]

Lacking as my personality is in certain aspects I really don't think I would want to change it. Not because it does not have its flaws, but because those flaws are what make me myself.

I think most autistic people probably follow a similar curve to mine regards their relationship with themselves. I spent my childhood struggling to interact with people, I then spent my 20's trying to appear normal and not really liking myself very much, before coming to a realisation in my mid 30s that I am what I am and stopping trying to be anyone else. It was only really at that point that I managed to be happy.

Changing an aspect of that would feel to me like a removal of authenticity, and I would rather be authentic and flawed than perfect and not me.

[Julius_Van_Der_Beak]

I think most autistic people probably follow a similar curve to mine regards their relationship with themselves. I spent my childhood struggling to interact with people, I then spent my 20's trying to appear normal and not really liking myself very much, before coming to a realisation in my mid 30s that I am what I am and stopping trying to be anyone else. It was only really at that point that I managed to be happy.

I've never been diagnosed with ASD, but damn.

[DJ Drug Problem]

before coming to a realisation in my mid 30s that I am what I am and stopping trying to be anyone else. It was only really at that point that I managed to be happy.

Changing an aspect of that would feel to me like a removal of authenticity, and I would rather be authentic and flawed than perfect and not me.

[Light Leak]

Better decision making. I don't know how to choose.

[Madrigal]

Better decision making. I don't know how to choose.

You just did.