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Re: flirtation

Post by elfsprin » Thu Dec 09, 2021 6:53 pm

MoneyJungle wrote:
Thu Dec 09, 2021 7:35 am
I just keep it real Lutheran.
LOL
MoneyJungle wrote:
Thu Dec 09, 2021 7:35 am
When I was in my prime as a flirtee I just assumed people were making fun of me. “LMAO imagine someone actually flirting with this guy.”
I feel this pretty hard.

I'm gonna tell stories.
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Oh I suppose I should add that the thought *did* cross my mind at the time that maybe this was just more teasing in the vein of 'She's All That' ... which is why it was a relevant story to tell in response to your post heh. But looking back I think it was genuine.
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Re: flirtation

Post by JohnClay » Thu Dec 09, 2021 11:58 pm

MoneyJungle wrote:
Thu Dec 09, 2021 7:35 am
I just keep it real Lutheran.
BTW my parents and their ancestors were all Lutheran and my grandpa was a Lutheran pastor. I also went to a Lutheran school that my dad worked at. An interesting thing is that none of my relatives have been divorced or separated. I think the only close relative who was separated/divorced is my mother's brother's wife's sister. And her son died in a car crash.

BTW what do you mean you "keep it real Lutheran"?

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Re: flirtation

Post by MoneyJungle » Fri Dec 10, 2021 7:45 am

JohnClay wrote:
Thu Dec 09, 2021 11:58 pm
BTW what do you mean you "keep it real Lutheran"?
Warm, if a little terse. Clean language. Not prying but helpful. Self-deprecating in a non-vitriolic kinda way. Not much for gossip. Smug but feels bad about it. Just my interpretation. I’m not a theologian.

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Re: flirtation

Post by JohnClay » Fri Dec 10, 2021 9:12 am

MoneyJungle wrote:
Fri Dec 10, 2021 7:45 am
JohnClay wrote:
Thu Dec 09, 2021 11:58 pm
BTW what do you mean you "keep it real Lutheran"?
Warm, if a little terse. Clean language. Not prying but helpful. Self-deprecating in a non-vitriolic kinda way. Not much for gossip. Smug but feels bad about it. Just my interpretation. I’m not a theologian.
Thanks for explaining - that was very in depth. When I was in high school I'd refuse to swear. I was horrified when a character had to say the D word in a play for English even though it was a Lutheran school (the girl playing the character had no problem with it - the same girl who wanted to have sex with me). I used to have no interest in gossip but now I can be fascinated with it. Though now I'm not Lutheran.

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Re: flirtation

Post by Ferrus » Fri Dec 10, 2021 5:40 pm

MoneyJungle wrote:
Fri Dec 10, 2021 7:45 am
Warm, if a little terse. Clean language. Not prying but helpful. Self-deprecating in a non-vitriolic kinda way. Not much for gossip. Smug but feels bad about it. Just my interpretation. I’m not a theologian.
And you stick to a Diet of Worms?

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Re: flirtation

Post by djm » Mon Dec 20, 2021 10:11 pm

elfsprin wrote:
Thu Nov 25, 2021 8:27 pm
I think I had this same thread on INTPc but I'm doing it again anyway.

Do you understand how to flirt? Can you detect flirtation when it's directed at you? How explicitly do the words 'I am attracted to you and would like to explore that some more' have to be vocalized before you recognize that someone else is interested in you? Any particularly good excerpts from media regarding flirtation that rev your analysis engine?
No.

I am absolutely pathetic at this. Indeed it probably maintained my virginal status far longer than necessary and also led to marriage from hell in my case.

At high school there was a girl I really liked as a friend (D), and I look now at the letters she wrote me, ane the conversations we had, and she was certainly interested in 'dating'. I would have been delighted had I noticed this whilst unsuccessfully navigating teenage life. Later I passed up multiple good opportunities due to social cluelessness and chronic shyness. Eventually I ended up in an abusive marriage due to this which not only ruined my 20s and 30s, but also badly affected my three eldest children.

When I met A, I had had managed to overcome these issues enough to at least ask her out for a drink. Thank goodness for that as very happy these days. But no, dreadful at both flirting and spotting flirting.

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Re: flirtation

Post by Yesterday » Fri Dec 24, 2021 9:11 pm

Apparently I flirt like a straight up loon.

Yeah, I long for the days ashi and I once had before she squeezed on her ski mask. :lol:

Ok I'll stop.

Not possible you say?

:lol:

*Covertly slides in the autism card* Btw y'all, I start my lower cased b.s. in mafs in a couple months. :nod:

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Once I (too) find a job and move out of the hobo zoo. Jk, hobo is deragotory to me. BTW, I prayed tonight and tons of cool stuff happened. The loud angry announcer lady was switched to a nice one. Our trays of grool (lasagna) were served with a smile. Everyone is nice tonight.

Religion meh. Bible yeah. Religion meh. Bible yeah. That Jesus is real. Those SDAs got it right. But most their churches stink of hypocricy. But who doesn't amirite. Just my singular experience though. You lot are very bright and get my drift.

Yes I keep the seventh day as Sabbath. Google sensei Dr. Sang Lee (cool Korean cat). He's a master at expositing about the benefits of keeping the Sabbath on Saturday. Ok I go now bye bye :hat:
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Re: flirtation

Post by Yesterday » Fri Dec 24, 2021 9:14 pm

Ferrus wrote:
Fri Dec 10, 2021 5:40 pm
MoneyJungle wrote:
Fri Dec 10, 2021 7:45 am
Warm, if a little terse. Clean language. Not prying but helpful. Self-deprecating in a non-vitriolic kinda way. Not much for gossip. Smug but feels bad about it. Just my interpretation. I’m not a theologian.
And you stick to a Diet of Worms?

*Random peasant pointing* Nailed it!
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Re: flirtation

Post by last_caress » Thu Dec 30, 2021 4:16 am

elfsprin wrote:
Thu Nov 25, 2021 8:27 pm
I think I had this same thread on INTPc but I'm doing it again anyway.

Do you understand how to flirt? Can you detect flirtation when it's directed at you? How explicitly do the words 'I am attracted to you and would like to explore that some more' have to be vocalized before you recognize that someone else is interested in you? Any particularly good excerpts from media regarding flirtation that rev your analysis engine?
No. I pretty much need a flow-chart.

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Re: flirtation

Post by DumFuq » Thu Dec 30, 2021 3:09 pm

I've been out of the game for several years at this point, but back in the day I was able to flirt pretty well.

It was 25% good natured teasing, 25% genuine compliments and the rest was just 'feeling the vibe' and going with it. Most importantly, it has to come from an authentic place. If you try to make it mental / procedural -- as if other people are an achievement to be unlocked with linguistic configurations -- it's just going to come off as stilted and weird.

What I used to do was really think about what I liked about a girl (aside from her physical appearance) and then go up to her and say it. "You look like you think more than you talk" or whatever. It always looks corny AF in text, but that's what worked. And if it clicked, the flirting seemed natural from there because you're both just building on mutual interest.

Also (and this is unsurprising), but if you dress well and take care of yourself physically it goes a long way towards people being receptive to such comments.

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